Life is like a game that I used to play with a young friend of mine. You stack all these wooden rods in a tower – three laid horizontally, parallel to one another, and touching, and then three crossing the first three, and then over and over until it creates a tower about a foot high. Now the object of the game is to pull out one of the rods and place it carefully on the top without the stack falling over. You lose if it falls over as a result of what you move.
My technique for playing this game is to very gently nudge the rods, from the end, one at a time, until I find one that gives, that moves, just a little. That tells me that it’s loose enough to be removed without making the whole stack fall over.
My theory is that the same tactic can be applied to life’s choices. I don’t throw myself at things. I gently nudge them to see if they move. Deciding which ones to nudge is a matter of intuition more than anything else. I could go at it one at a time from the bottom up but that doesn’t really appeal to me. Having tested by nudging, I then apply more pressure to the ones that give a little. I go through that door and move another of life’s pieces.
What I’m trying to figure out right now is what to do when none of the things I nudge in life are giving – at all. Then what?