Finding our path in life

What do people generally want to know when they go to a psychic? Not surprisingly, I find it’s similar from person to person, and even from continent to continent.

  • Love life
  • Job and/or life purpose
  • Family and loved ones
  • Health
  • Financial security

But what happens before we get to the psychic? Some people head for the psychic as soon as they run into a glitch but in my experience this isn’t the norm. For many people, a visit to a psychic is a last resort. We usually try to figure things out on our own. It’s only when we feel we’ve exhausted all other avenues that we decide we have nothing to lose.

I think this is one of the reasons that we feel so emotional when the psychic sees just what we’re up against, without us having to articulate it. We feel seen and understood, when often that isn’t the case with other people in our lives, either because we feel we can’t reveal our vulnerability or because we’re not even sure how to define it ourselves.

It has been suggested to me that these same people only want to know about their future, and not the present or the past. While I think that may be true in the abstract, I don’t think it’s true in the particulars. I think most of us would prefer to understand what’s going on for us in the present, and how we got there, so that we can find our own way into the future. It’s only in the absence of understanding what’s going on in the present that we feel blocked and hopeless about the future.

The famous Dr. Seuss expressed this very nicely in his last children’s book before he died, entitled “Oh the Places You’ll Go“. I think it applies equally to adults. In it he says:

And when you’re in a Slump,
you’re not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted. But mostly they’re darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And IF you go in, should you turn left or right …
or right-and-three-quarters? Or maybe not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it’s not, I’m afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

He suggests that this is when we end up in the ‘Waiting Place’. And when we come out of that place, we can find ourselves in the place where we’re playing games against ourselves. That’s when it gets lonely and scary. Actually, I think he describes beautifully what state people are in when they search out or stumble across a psychic.

They could be:

  • in a ‘Slump’, or
  • not know if they should ‘turn left or right’, or
  • in the ‘Waiting Place’, or
  • playing games against themselves.

But whichever it is, I think they usually need reassurance that they aren’t crazy or deluded, and/or they need another perspective, like putting a new frame on the old picture so that they can see it in a new light.

So you may feel you’d like someone to take over and make the choices for you, or just tell you where you’re going to end up, but I’ll bet that if someone tried to take the reigns out of your hands, you’d fight to get them back again. I’ve had several clients who say they wanted to know what the future held for them and when I told them what I saw (which was only a probability in any case), they fought me. It wasn’t the ‘right’ future, the one they had envisaged, although they didn’t know that until ‘it didn’t fit’.

We say we want to see what choices we have but sometimes we can’t see the fork in the road because we’re preoccupied trying to figure out why it isn’t where we expect it to be. It’s frustration and hopelessness that makes us want someone else to take the whole thing out of our hands and make it all right. Our foreheads get sore from banging them against the proverbial wall and we just want to see some light. So is it as easy as just asking someone, like a psychic, to tell us what to do?

Ah, I doubt it! Life is sometimes the slog of a march on a road with no markers but I think it’s also equal measures of dance, which does not proceed in a straight line. Neither can we expect life to be all one or the other. Too much of either would be really tedious!

I think it’s a shame that we’re programmed with so much fear… Are we doing enough? Are we doing the right things? Why did this happen to me? What if I don’t make the right choice? A pinch of serendipity, an ounce of magic, some patience and a dollop of hard work; that’s the recipe. And sometimes you need to reach out for some reassurance or another perspective. It isn’t ‘cheating’. Then, “Oh the Places You’ll Go!”

The good Doctor says, at the end of his book:

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)

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One Response to Finding our path in life

  1. Anonymous says:

    Thoroughly enjoyed your latest reflections and the mentioning of Dr Seuss’ observations. As always, thank you.

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